Regardless of who you are dating, there are general similarities that should be addressed. Communication is essential, and approaching partners or potential partners in tactful ways is important. There are many facets to communication within dating, and there are sometimes things people want to be aware of for themselves as well. Many questions do not apply to each person. That said, sexuality is a central part of people’s identity. Feelings about how we express ourselves, what our sexual orientation is, our feelings about our gender, our body image, and the sexual behaviors we choose to partake in, are all part of us as a person. If a person’s gender identity does not align with what they are assigned at birth, they can be considered trans.

If you are attracted to a trans person for the first time, you may feel uncomfortable with these feelings or question your sexual orientation. Keep in mind that attraction does not necessarily change who you are, though it may also mean that your desires do not match other people’s more rigid expectations, or in some cases, your own.

If you are looking to have a relationship with a trans person, learning respectful language, respectful communication, and how to navigate pronouns and other gender elements is essential. You may need to continue communicating during a transition, asking your partner or potential partner their thoughts on pronouns, who should correct them, and more. Be respectful of people’s feelings, and be aware that many non-trans people are prejudiced towards trans people, which can affect the way communication occurs.

When approaching dating, sex, sexuality, most everything is the same as you would approach anyone else you are interested in. Flirting can be the same in most situations, and reading social cues is also essential. If sex is approached in conversation, keep in mind that each person has a different relationship with their genitals. These are feelings that might change over time, and they might not. Questions about genitals should only come if you’re planning on interacting with them and sex is on the horizon. Do not make assumptions about how a person wants you to interact with their genitals based on what they look like, or where they are in their transition process. Communication is essential here as well, and you may need to have a conversation about what to call their genitals, how they establish their relationship, tips for navigating their relationship with their body, and more.